6 kk sinkkuna, käsitys naisista mennyt paljon negatiivisempaan suuntaan

Kiinnostaisi tietää, että kun tavalliset miehet lähestyvät tällaisia naisia:

http://thumbs.dreamstime.com/z/portrait-happy-blond-woman-24775286.jpg

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https://wallpaperscraft.com/image/winter_blonde_wink_hat_scarf_blue_764…

Niin minkänäköisiä naisia ne kaikkein tavoitelluimmat miehet lähestyvät?

Vierailija kirjoitti:

Vierailija kirjoitti:

Ap puhuu asiaa, vaikkei ehkä osaa muotoilla sanottavaansa kilttiin naisia miellyttävään olomuotoon. Turhautuminen on ymmärrettävää.

Tässä on aika mielenkiintoinen juttu siitä kun nainen yritti deittailia naisia mieheksi tekeytyneenä ja miten se avasi hänen silmiään.

http://www.theguardian.com/world/2006/mar/18/gender.bookextracts

"Rejection is a staple for guys," said Curtis, laughing as I crumpled into my seat with a humiliated sigh. "Get used to it."

"How do you handle it?"

"Let me tell you a story," he said. "When I was in college, there was this guy Dean, who got laid all the time. I mean this guy had different women coming out of his room every weekend and most week-nights, and he wasn't particularly good-looking. He was fat and kind of a slob. Nice guy, though, but nothing special. I couldn't figure out how he did it, so one time I just asked him. 'How do you get so many girls to go out with you?' He was a man of few words, kind of Coolidge-esque, if you know what I mean. So all he said was: 'I get rejected 90% of the time. But it's that 10%.' "

That made us both cackle and pound the table. "That's the thing about being a guy," Curtis finished. "Rejection is part of the game. It's expected."

***

To most of the women I dated, even the odd date meant a lot, especially women who had been out roaming the singles scene for years in their mid-30s, trying to find a mate amid the serial daters.

For these women, men as a subspecies - not the particular men with whom they had been involved - were to blame for the wreck of a relationship and the psychic damage it had done them. It's hardly surprising, then, that in this atmosphere, as a single man dating women, I often felt attacked, judged, on the defensive.

***

I began to feel very sympathetic toward heterosexual men - the pressure to be a world-bestriding colossus is an immensely heavy burden to bear, and trying to be a sensitive new age guy at the same time is pretty well impossible. Expectation, expectation, expectation was the leitmotif of Ned's dating life.

***

If you have never been sexually attracted to women, you will never quite understand the monumental power of female sexuality, except by proxy or in theory, nor will you quite know the immense advantage it gives us over men. Dating women as a man was a lesson in female power, and it made me, of all things, into a momentary misogynist, which I suppose was the best indicator that my experiment had worked. I saw my own sex from the other side, and I disliked women irrationally for a while because of it. I disliked their superiority, their accusatory smiles, their entitlement to choose or dash me with a fingertip, an execution so lazy, so effortless, it made the defeats and even the successes unbearably humiliating. Typical male power feels by comparison like a blunt instrument, its salvos and field strategies laughably remedial next to the damage a woman can do with a single cutting word: no.

Samat tulokset olis tullu jos olisi tehnyt testin rumana naisena. Sanon vaan.

Jep jep. Rumalla naisella ei ole mitään valtaa miehiin.

Vierailija kirjoitti:

Miksi nälvit naisia jotka luulevat että olet vain iskemässä heitä? Sinähän olet. Luuletko että naiset eivät ymmärrä sanatonta viestintää?

Nähdäkseni ongelma on tässä: nainen luulee, että mies joka aloittaa keskustelun, yrittää iskeä. Ei ymmärretä, että mies mahdollisesti haluaa tutustua naiseen keskustelun kautta ja päättää sitten, haluaako iskeä, ts. kohtaavatko kemiat. Jos eivät kohtaa, voi silti olla luvassa mukava juttutuokio. Harvemmin on, kiitos jäätävän reaktion.