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The Problem With Short Men

For thousands of years, size really did matter. The bigger men were, the more likely they were to have had better nutrition and therefore have better hunting skills.

But we came out of the caves ages ago, so why are women still seemingly programmed to pursue men who are taller rather than, say, guys who are closer to their own height?

According to 157 women, a short man is a man who is 5’7″ or shorter. Men who stand 5’8″ to 5’11″ are considered average, and anything 6′ and above constitutes tall.

So what is it about short men that makes women opt for instant rejection? Why are women so hell-bent on finding a tall man when most women don’t usually get much taller than 5’5″?

http://datedaily.mate1.com/dating-tips-2/dating-tips-for-womens/problem-with-short-men#.Vf5GsX2E0SU

It Happened to Me: I'm a Short Guy

I have found that many of the cultural inequities we traditionally assume are gender-based might have just as much to do with size as the seemingly inexcusable lack of a penis.

http://www.xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/discrimination-against-short-men

Lyhyet miehet ovat aivan yhtä hyviä kuin pitkätkin.Paras ystäväni on 168 cm-aivan loistoheppu.Älkää viitsikö mollata heitä,pituus on kaikkein vähimmin kenelläkään valittavissa.Itse asiassa jos olisi saanut valita ,niin minulle olisi tuo (isäni) 175 cm:iä riitttänyt oikein hyvin ja itse asiassa jos suinkin ja mitenkään  oli mahdollista,niin vaihtaisin siihen pituuteen  kyllä  vaikka heti.

toiv. mies, 183 cm

Isn't He Lovely: Short Man Stigma

https://bitchmedia.org/post/isnt-he-lovely-short-man-stigma

The Short Guy Stigma

One of the most pervasive and talked about forms of body shaming is weight bias, as Caroline and I discussed in our podcast conversation on fat- and thin-shaming The Body Shaming Epidemic.  In brief, overweight women in particular are penalized for the shape of their bodies in the form of conscious and unconscious negative bias exhibited at home, school, work and even the doctor’s office. Once you start digging into the research, it seems there’s almost no place where overweight people are safe from ugly stereotypes.

Another less talked about stop along the body shaming spectrum is height-based stereotyping particularly targeted at men. Study after study reveals how short men tend to make less money than their taller counterparts, have a harder time dating and are generally assumed to be more jealous and angry. After hearing from a number of short male Stuff Mom Never Told You fans who’ve endured height-based taunting, I decided to dig more into the topic and hopefully raise some awareness about how short-shaming isn’t acceptable and needs to stop.

And also, as a tall (5’9″) woman, I have some skin in this height stereotyping game as well. If I elect to wear heels and thus tower over my boyfriend, I brace myself for the double-takes passersby inevitably toss our way. Because of short guy stigmatizing, it’s considered wacky and even emasculating for straight women to be taller than their male partners, and as I can tell you from the experience of dating men both significantly taller and shorter than myself, height has nothing to do with “manliness” or basic goodness of character. Bottom line: short-shaming is a form of body shaming, and the faster we can all agree to cut that kind of nonsense out, the better the world will be for everyone: tall or short, thin or fat, and everything in between.

http://www.stuffmomnevertoldyou.com/blog/the-short-guy-stigma/

Short men: Ditch the double standards

http://www.iol.co.za/lifestyle/love-sex/relationships/short-men-ditch-the-double-standards-1.1888348#.Vf5M5X2E0SU

Online Dating Survey In New York Reveals Most Women Won't Date A Short Guy - Is This True In The UK?

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2013/12/10/dating-a-short-guy_n_4417515.html

Miehen pituus on ainoastaan naisten korvienvälissä oleva ongelma ja se on tosiasia. Lyhyet miehet eivät ole ongelma vaan naisten on muutettava suhtautumistaan lyhyisiin miehiin. On kyllä ihmeellistä, että lyhyen miehen sperma ei kelpaa suomalaiselle naiselle ja haetaan pitkä mies, jolla on lapsia useamman naisen kanssa. Tästä aiheutuu sisäsiittoisuutta ja siksi monella naisella on keskenmenoja, kun yritetään jatkaa sukua oman suvun kanssa.

How can short men fight back against social discrimination in dating?

Short men are stereotyped as being uniquely evil, angry, weak, unmanly, unattractive, and women prefer to avoid them.

https://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20140526115148AAR4Uhy

Pikkasen joku taas psykoosissa..

On todella yleistä, että syytellään lyhyitä miehiä kaikesta ja sitten aletaan etsimään syytä luonteesta, kun ei enää keksitä mitään järkevää tekosyytä. Ainoa syy on naisten korvienvälissä, jos eivät hyväksy lyhyitä miehiä lapsentekoon, parisuhteeseen tai edes yhdenyön leikkeihin. Miehen pituus on yleisin syy miksi naiset syrjivät ja jättävät lyhyet miehet kokonaan leikkien ulkopuolelle.

Mikään ei ole niin loukkaavaa, kuin suomalaisten naisten harjoittama pituussyrjintä parishudemarkkinoilla. Ei ole mukavaa olla lyhyt mies, koska silloin joutuu elämään selibaatissa todella pitkään ja paineet kasaantuvat. Mikään ei ole niin tärkeä asia, kuin parisuhde ja perheen perustaminen, mutta pituus ei vain miellytä, niin sitten saat elää yksinäistä elämää.

Lyhyillä miehillä jää naisen saaminen vain haaveilun tasolle. On todella harvinainen tapaus, jos nainen kelpuuttaa lyhyen miehen parisuhteeseen. Ei ole kiva kuulua ryhmään mihin naiset eivät edes tikulla koske!

Lyhyille miehille sama arvo parisuhdemarkkinoille, kuin pitkilläkin on. Tasa-arvo naisten edessä kaikille miehille pituudesta riippumatta, jotta ei tarvitse pituuden takia puutteessa elää!

Are Height Requirements Still Keeping You From Finding Love?

Nothing is more irrelevant to marital happiness than height.

http://www.evanmarckatz.com/blog/dating-tips-advice/are-height-requirements-still-keeping-you-from-finding-love/

In defence of short men

It’s said the things that affect you in your childhood forever define who you are as an adult. So given the headline of this story, it may not shock you to find out that one of my first ever childhood crushes was on the teeny, tiny, in my opinion totally adorable Michael J. Fox in Back to the Future. What, like you wouldn’t make a move on a guy with a hover board and self-lacing sneakers? And when Beverly Hills 90210 came on the air (the original obviously, not the pointless remake) I was always team Jason Priestley over his lankier bad boy counterpart Luke Perry. Then when I actually got old enough to date I ran the whole gamut from eye-level to my 5’4” frame to men who I looked up to literally (even if not always figuratively upon further inspection...)

Now it’s not like I’m not superficial – and frankly I think if ever there was a time to be superficial it would be in matters of attraction – but I’ve always been surprised that height remains such a big romantic deal breaker for women. In a deeply unscientific study I went on an online dating site and looked at ten female profiles at random. Seven of them listed an ideal height, which was a greater number than listed an ideal body type (perhaps unsurprisingly when I reversed genders in my search the opposite was true for men seeking women).

This preference for tall was also confirmed by 'qualitative research' of chatting to my friends, many of whom – both petite and super-sized – say they simply find tall men sexier.  According to the Australian Bureau of Statistics the average height of the Australian male aged 25 to 44 years old is 176.3cm – but such is the pressure on men to not be considered short that the same study found that men reported their height as 1.5cm taller than it actually was. And with research indicating tall men earn more money, are happier and are more likely to be married it’s no shock that overestimation often creeps in.

The issue  of his height is even more complicated for tall women, who after putting up with a lifetime of inane comments like “Wow, you’re really tall” may feel at least subconsciously under social pressure not to choose a shorter partner who draws more attention to their height. But I’ve had enough women my height say they like guys 6 foot or more to know that the desire to be able to wear heels without it being a drama can’t be the only reason height is such a prized attribute.

I’ve always found this situation somewhat baffling also because it’s not something reflected in our taste for imaginary paramours.  It’s almost a Hollywood cliché to say that many male movie stars look shorter in real life than they do on the big screen – think Tom Cruise and the rumoured lifts he has in his shoes.  If we fancy them in our fantasy life why does that not translate to real life?

It might be because shortness is not something we find unattractive until we imagine it in relation to our self, that is the societal pressures only get involved once we consider what sort of couple we would present to the world.  Similar to how men are conditioned by media images to see skinny women (but don’t forget to be curvy at the same time!) as the height of sex appeal, heterosexual females are shown over and over again that their partner should be taller than them (even Ken has a good half inch on Barbie after all...) I think part of the reason short guys get such a bum deal is that height is seen as related to masculinity, a somewhat unfair correlation – after all is an A-cup-endowed lady any less of a woman than a D-cup? Of course not.

Am I alone in thinking height and hotness just aren’t related? Or like an amusement park do you have a “you must be this tall” attitude when it comes to love or lust? To each their own, but for me personally so long as I see eye-to-eye with a man on matters of taste and values, it doesn’t really bother me if I see eye-to-eye with him literally.

http://www.dailylife.com.au/news-and-views/dl-opinion/in-defence-of-short-men-20120319-1vf7x.html

Tall men are twice as likely to cheat according to new survey
Got a boyfriend over 5ft 10? Well, according to a new survey, he’s twice as likely to cheat on you than someone who’s under that height, which is the UK national average.

The results, from IllicitEncounters.com, an extra marital dating site, showed that tall men are more likely to stray, possibly because they are more confident than their shorter peers.
 
Mike Taylor from the married dating site said: ‘A large percentage of women want a man to be physically stronger and taller than them to make them feel protected and secure, it sounds old fashioned – but it’s true.’

He added that: ‘There is also a certain confidence that comes with height, and guys know that it gives them edge over shorter guys.’

So basically ladies, it might be time to trade in the ‘tall, dark and handsome’ dream for ‘just-under-average-height, dark and handsome’.

That’s if you don’t want to find suspicious texts on his phone one month in…

Read more: http://metro.co.uk/2014/07/23/tall-men-are-twice-as-likely-to-cheat-according-to-new-survey-4806767/#ixzz3mI920ocT

"As a matter of fact, there may be more heightism today than before because people can no longer discriminate against other groups: blacks, women, Jews," he said.

In real-world terms, heightism can translate into fewer dollars, relationships and children for shorter men.

http://www.sixwise.com/newsletters/05/08/03/how-much-of-an-advantage-do-tall-men-have-are-tall-men-really-better-off.htm

Women’s UGLY Truth About Men: There’s NO TIME For Short Dudes

Because I am a naturally inquisitive person, I like to informally poll people all the time, and for the last couple of weeks I have been asking many women about whether or not they see themselves dating a SHORT man, and the overwhelming majority said NO. But that’s not what was shocking or surprising to me because I have been pretty cognizant of that fact all my life, but the truly HARSH part of the poll is that there is little to NO reconciliatory efforts the short man can make to get BACK in the good, potential-nani-smashing graces of said woman. Forget the friend zone being the end zone, according to WOMEN themselves, the Midget zone is the REALEST end zone in the dating world.

This is one of those topics that women love to be politically correct about and for good reason – they feel that since men really can’t change their height, to call him out on it is like playing “keep-away” with an overweight, mentally challenged’s kid Hostess cupcake while he’s in a wheel chair with a sprained ankle – it’s a disastrous recipe for ‘Catching Feelings.’ As much as women like to duck and dodge being blunt and honest about not wanting to date a grown-a*s man that couldn’t even start at Small Forward on an 8th grade basketball team, the reality is women ARE vain and superficial enough to prefer a baby-richard having 6’6 dude than an anaconda-slanging 5’3″ dude.

The one thing I always heard from women in my semi-poll was that the only allowances for HEIGHT to NOT be an issue were so ridiculously unattainable for the average man that they were laughable. So women will get it in with Ludacris, T.I. and Bobby Valentino [all short negroes] because of their accelerated talent, and interesting personalities, and by in large, this is a very common trend:

But let’s keep it real for a second – every short dude isn’t balling and doing the willy bounce in his G4 pouring $6,500 bottles of Perrier-Jouet champagne down the a*s-crack of a gaggle of Andressa Soares. Every short dude can’t SANG like Mista, reverse 360 like Nate Robinson, bust jokes like Kevin Hart or drop classic hip-hop albums like Mobb Deep. Yes men, the few exceptions women were willing to concede were 1) wealth, b) fame, c) looks and then finally d) personality. That basically indicates your personality IS important – unless [as Speedy puts it] you’re small enough for your family to use a PT Cruiser for your hearse at your funeral.

Why is it better for a man to be slightly overweight, slightly underhung, slightly un-pretty in the face and maybe even slightly a*sholeish, is because he will get the chance to still date her and go through these things, while the short man can’t even get the nod from the coach to get off the bench and get some playing time.

But have no fear short men, the reality of the situation is that height is so important yet so subsequently subjective to women, that most women usually just enforce the ideal that they would like to date a man TALLER than them, which means even if she’s 5’2, a 5’4 dude still has a shot at beating the nani in a crossface chicken-wing style backshot.

 http://www.thisisyourconscience.com/2011/03/the-ugly-truth-a-man-being-hung-like-a-caterpillar-a-man-being-short/

Women vs. Short Guys Revisited

Most posts I write get three comments. Women vs Short Guys: Dating’s Fiercest Battleground, my daring exploration of the dark world that is tiny dude daters, has received sixty-five. It’s been republished by at least five other outlets and been read by twice as many people as anything I’ve ever posted. Including the detective fiction starring my cat, Inspector Whiskerton, that went up briefly in the bleak hours following Valentine’s Day, 2010. So clearly, people are fascinated by the plight of single short guys, and I just had to revisit the topic.

Easily some of the craziest things you guys have said to me were a result of this article. Here’s ROSA, a woman who is, herself, short, and might therefore have some sympathy for similar men. Turns out, no.

I am sick and tired of short men approaching me thinking that because I’m a short girl, I like short guys. I HATE SHORT GUYS! Just because I’m short doesn’t mean I don’t prefer the tall, dark, and handsome guys like the rest of us women. I really wish all men shorter than 6’2″ should be rounded up and shot.

Rounded up and shot, folks. Rounded. Up. And. Shot. Which is a practical enough suggestion, but where would we find all the shoeboxes to bury them in? ROSA, however, was not finished.

Us women should hold dating sites accountable and demand that they add fraud protection to stop short men from lying about their height. ANY man under 6’1″ IS NOT a compatible match for me. Men who lie about their height or try to conceal their height with elevator [shoes] should be arrested for fraud!

Is Rosa insane? Of course she is. But nearly every women I’ve heard from agrees with her general assessment. Short guys aren’t just unappealing, they’re maddeningly unappealing. They’re like the Tea Party of the dating universe: it’s not that you dislike them, it’s that you can’t understand how they don’t dislike themselves. Like their size is somehow an insult. It’s all, frankly, a little disturbing. And it’s getting some short guys down. (Pun intended.) Here’s a tall guy so screwed up that he thinks he’s actually short…

As an average height guy, 5’11”, I can pretty much get away with dating most girls who insist on just being taller than them. What I can’t get over is my own Napoleon complex, because my dad is 6’3”, my brother 6’4”, my best friend 6’7” and 3/5 of my close friends over 6’3”. I am a short stack wherever I go, and it has warped my psyche.

This is what we’ve become, people. A 5’11” guy with a Napolean complex. Do you know how pissed Napolean would be? People almost six feet tall bitching about their height? He’d smack this guy right in the face. After climbing up on a stool, of course. Or at least a couple of phone books. He continues…

I’m fit, not ugly, have a thick head of hair, and a good job, but my height insecurities make me only message girls 5’4” and shorter so that there is no way in heels they are taller than me.
Call it what you will, but I wouldn’t wish my future child to be anything less than 6’3”.

I will tell you something now that is not at all funny and is certainly not a joke. Short men have emailed me and talked about committing suicide. Because of their height. BECAUSE OF THEIR FUCKING HEIGHT. That is not cool, ladies. To feel disregarded because of something you have no power to change and did nothing to create, I’m sure that is all kinds of awful – and what bitter part of my heart remains goes out to these guys. But I shouldn’t just be speaking to the ladies, because we all do this. Men have their own checklist of traits that we will unfairly deem sacrosanct. As always seems to happen, men quickly turned on the larger ladies.

http://itsnotamatch.com/2011/10/07/women-vs-short-guys-revisited/