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In this topic we talk about our issues - in English :-)
29.12.2014 |
Howdy ho!
My problem is that I've been dating one guy for a month now, who's that kind of man that I admire.
BUT... one if his family members has past away recently and I had absolutely no clue at all.
So naturally he says he just can't focus into serious relationship right know because of a mourning period he's going through. And of course I understand it perfectly! But STILL I feel myself stupid? I don't get it... Like I shouldn't be so compassionate or something, like what the hell, I don't know eather.
What makes this situation feel absurd is that we met each other on a dating website and he said that he absolutely doesn't want any... säätöä, you know but just a serious relationship.
And yeah he keeps telling me how he likes me and doesn't want to quit this.
We have had sex several times and we are getting by well. I have decided to wait for him to feel better and not to go to the next one. Because to be honest it is so damn hard to find someone who just feels so right person for you and makes you feel good. So I don't want to lose this all.
But please, tell me... Do I sound naive person because of that? I don't want to...
And how long "should" I wait for him to feel better and get over a loss?
But anyway... how about YOU, ladieeeees? :-)
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I do think that you should indeed be more compassionate.
He will get over the loss in due time; like you already stated it is hard to find someone you actually like and feel comfortable with, I would wait and try to comfort him in this difficult time.
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[quote author="Vierailija" time="29.12.2014 klo 20:41"]I do think that you should indeed be more compassionate.
He will get over the loss in due time; like you already stated it is hard to find someone you actually like and feel comfortable with, I would wait and try to comfort him in this difficult time.
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I've decided to stay with him and support him as good as I can. If he said that he is just not ready for serious relationship WITHOUT a family member loss, of course I'd go to the next one.
Why was he searching for new girl and then said that he's not ready yet..? A little weird to my mind. Would you ask him?
[quote author="Vierailija" time="29.12.2014 klo 20:55"]Why was he searching for new girl and then said that he's not ready yet..? A little weird to my mind. Would you ask him?
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That's why I said it's absurd. I guess he wanted to move on in his life but then realised he can't yet.
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[quote author="Vierailija" time="29.12.2014 klo 21:28"][quote author="Vierailija" time="29.12.2014 klo 20:55"]Why was he searching for new girl and then said that he's not ready yet..? A little weird to my mind. Would you ask him?
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That's why I said it's absurd. I guess he wanted to move on in his life but then realised he can't yet.
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I could ask him but actually I don't want him to start disputing it. All I want to do is to show him that I won't leave him in hard times you know. Luckily I've broken up recently and that's why I don't feel like I have to have a new relationship immediately. For the first time in my life I am ready for waiting a guy. And this time only... ;-)
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Fuck... I mean one OF his family members.