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"..domestic violence is a extremely tricky situation. While some domestic violence can be worked with, in situations where it is about power and control counseling is strongly contraindicated.

Two ways to look at domestic violence are as "characterological" "situational". Situational violence generally refers to couples who argue poorly which leads to throwing items, pushing, slapping, and maybe a few punches. In situational violence both partners are usually involved in the violence, and can learn to be less violent. A major key here is that during arguments, especially just prior to violence, each partner's heart rate will be elevated.

Characterological violence is a completely different beast. In these situations, one partner uses violence or the threat of violence to control, manipulate, or otherwise coerce his or her partner to change behavior. This type of violence usually consists of choking, beating with hands or weapons, rape, breaking of bones, etc. It is far more likely to end in death than situational violence. Often, learning to behave differently for characterological victimizers is extremely difficult, but possible through individual or group counseling. The key with this type of violence is that an offender's heart rate will drop super low when angry and right before violence starts.

With characterological violence, couples counseling can significantly increase the chance of violence, and is almost never recommended. Instead, it is important to offer (privately) resources to the victimized partner and recommend that the couple seek individual counseling instead"