Viiden lapsen isä on opetellut olemaan arjen pienissä hetkissä läsnä.
Näyttelijä James Van Der Beekiä, 41, ei suotta kutsuta superisäksi. Hänen jakaessaan arkea lapsiensa Olivian, 8, Joshuan, 6, Annabellan, 5, Emilian, 2, sekä alle vuoden ikäisen Gwendolynin kanssa Instagram-seuraajat ihmettelevät: Kuinka hän tekee sen?
Viiden lapsen kanssa vanhemmuustaidot tulevat tarpeeseen. Millaisilla opeilla Van Der Beek ja hänen vaimonsa Kimberly kasvattavat lapsiaan?
Poikakin saa olla herkkä
One of the most cringeworthy phrases I hear, little dude... is, “Be a man.” Especially when it’s said to young boys, because the message is often: “Be tough. Don’t cry. Suck it up. Act like nothing effects you.” To me... that’s just empty posturing. Being a real man means being strong enough to be empathetic. To be sensitive. To be caring, kind, and confident enough to appreciate and nurture your feminine side. If you start with that as a base, all that other stereotypically “manly” behavior (none of which is exclusive to males, btw) might just accomplish some good. But in the meantime... it’s okay to be a boy. ❤️
Kuuntele, miksi lapsi uhmaa
When a toddler wants something unreasonable and throws a tantrum... sometimes the key is to make sure they feel heard. Once they calm down, you can talk about better ways to go about getting what they want. Maybe even strike a compromise. What’s not productive... is mocking them for “caving.” #MondayMusings
Lapset eivät näe erilaisuutta samalla tavalla kuin aikuiset
I’ve heard people ask: “How the hell am I supposed to explain #transgender to my kid?” Maybe it helps to let them stay up past their bedtime. Maybe it helps to have your secret junk food box on the counter. Or maybe kids are just smarter than we think. This is what happened when we had “the talk” about my #posefx cast with our just-turned eight year-old. 😯#WhileTheyRifledThroughMySecretJunkFoodBoxIUsuallyKeepHidden
Läsnäolo helpottaa ruuhkavuosia
“The days were long, the years were short.” That’s what parents of older children have said to me about raising kids. And it feels true already. It’s SO easy to get consumed by the stresses, the daily grind, the little dramas that won’t even register in your memory a year later. Seven years into #parenthood, I’m realizing more and more that all that really matters... are the moments of connection. So when they happen, give yourself permission to wipe everything off the table and be 100% fully present for them. They’ll make the days happier, and the years worthwhile. ❤️ #ThatsMyPlanAndImStickingToIt #OrAtLeastTrying